Have you heard the question “Would you rather meet a man or a bear?” asked by many women on social media in the conversation about dangerous men and the #metoo-movement? The question is asked because many women feel like they would rather meet a bear. A literal bear! Why? Because so many women have their stories about being assaulted by men.
At the same time women ask this, men laugh and tell the women they are ridiculous and that the question is absurd. Yes, it might be an absurd question, but if I were a man I would wonder why women ask this question to begin with. What have men done so wrong that women would rather meet a bear? Instead of blaming women for everything, maybe men should take accountability, after all, this world is run by men and nobody could disagree with that! So if men want to run this world, men should also take responsibility for what kind of world they have created…
And what kind of world is that? A world where some women (myself included) would rather meet a bear in the dark than a man! If I were a man I would blame myself and the men around me, not the people who are scared of me.
It’s like blaming the victim of abuse that they would rather meet literally someone else than the abuser. No, not all men abuse women. We already know that! But too many do, and it’s them we’re talking about.
If men want to run this world, they need to take responsibility, which they have proven century after century that they can’t. Maybe try something new? Something new where all genders can be valued and run what is their place to live.
It’s not about survival instinct that women rather want to meet a bear. Or is it? It’s not a lack of survival instinct, it’s rather a very real instinct, that sadly the opposite gender laughs at on social media.
What if all of you men could be a little bit kinder and a little bit more compassionate?
Then we shouldn’t have this problem. And we should have a better world.
I have been abused, beaten up, and assaulted by more men than I can count on my ten fingers. I have learned that men are not safe. I would rather meet a bear because then I would either die a more “safe” death or would escape with less trauma than I have today! Because a bear wouldn’t rape or torture me at least.
I won’t ever claim that all men are evil because that’s not true. But the dangerous men, these men need to be talked about without being protected by the society that’s yelling “not all men!”.
Saying “not all men!” is just a way of saying “I don’t care!” at this point…
/Trix
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